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Books for Adoptees

 This is one of my favorite books…As an adoptee how many different positions do you hold in the birth order? This gave me a different perspective on some of my relationships with my siblings.

The Birth Order by Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Leman discusses the position we each hold in the family: oldest, youngest, middle, etc. For those of us of divorced parents it helps to understand how you may have come to a different place in each relationship due to the birth position you hold in each family group. If nothing else it helps explain why some of us may feel confused in certain surroundings. I found this a very interesting read.

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When Your Parent Remarries Late in Life: Making Peace with Your Adult Step Family by Terry Smith and James Harper

And Becoming an Adult Stepchild: Adjusting to a Parent’s New Marriage by Pearl Prilik

These two books discuss the subject of remarrying: multiple step siblings, etc from the stand point of an adult.

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Love Me Never Leave Me by Marilyn Meberg

This book describes the feelings that accompany losses of all kinds: death of a loved one, prolonged illness, divorce, infidelity, estrangementThe author shares her experiences and how each of these events can cause us to feel hurt and abandoned, and she suggests methods to deal with those feelings.                               

 Scattered Siblings by Lawrence A Weeks

This book describes one man’s personal  journey to find his birth mother: the surprises, disappointments and successes of developing a relationship with his mother when he finally locates her.

Becoming an Adult Stepchild: Adjusting to a Parent’s New Marriage by Pearl Prilik

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When Your Parent Remarries Late in Life: Making Peace with your Adult Step Family by Terry Smith and James Harper

These two books discuss the subject of remarrying: multiple step siblings, etc from the stand point of an adult.

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 The Shadow Man: A Daughters Search for her Father by Mary Gordon

This book discusses the subject of wanting to get to know a parent who has died. This book was written by a woman whose father died when she was 7 and she felt she never knew him and describes her research to find out about him.

 Not Like My Mother by IreneTomkins

This book is a daughter’s effort to grow up to be a better mother than her own mother and how difficult she discovered that to be. But she was able to recognize the signs and over come her learned behaviors. This is Irene’s contribution to all of us who strive to be better parents.  No matter what kind of parents you had this book can still teach us all a lesson in how and when to address our own weaknesses.

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